Fight Isolation as if Your Life Depends on It.
Stay Accountable to Others.
“A friend loves you all the time, and a brother helps in time of trouble.”
Proverbs 17:17 NCV
One of the spiritual disciplines often taught in church is accountability, but accountability in church can feel awkward. A friend gets real and vulnerable with you and they share their life and struggles. They ask you to keep them accountable.
You text them the following week asking them how they’re doing with it, and they don’t even respond or avoid the question or even tell you they’ve failed. Then what are you supposed to do? Ground them? Put them in timeout? Slap them on the wrist? Keep pushing?
You want to encourage them in the moment, but accountability gets difficult over the long haul because you don’t want to feel like you’re their spiritual police officer.
Here is the problem for all people including yourself.You can’t say you want to be free and then take the steps to freedom lightly. People often find themselves stuck in their struggles because they are not determined to live in accountability.
What you have to know in regard to being accountable is it’s not other people’s jobs to think about you. It’s your job to be real and genuine and not cover up with where you’re at. Accountability is not just checking in with one another. Accountability is an agreement to wage real spiritual war in real life with one another to find freedom and stay free. For real! As if our lives depended on it because they do!
We’ve grown accustomed to saying these phrases “I don’t need that,” and “That’s overly spiritual.”
Do we want to be under spiritual? Saying these things gives the notion you know your way in real life better than God and you’d rather be less than who you are to keep comfortable when you could be who God has called you to be and find freedom.
If you want freedom from your struggles, you’re asking for a war.
The goal of accountability is to grow. Growth for you and others might be related to relationships, pornography,
materialism$$, substance abuse, over indulgence, anger, dishonesty, or just getting healthy.
If you desire to grow, be a person who consistently invites your friends into your process of growth or you won’t grow and worse you will eventually go another way, or back to old ways. I say no way to that!
Do you have good friends? Are you a good friend? At the end of the day and your life, your wealth is not measured by the amount of money in your bank account. It is measured by the quality of your relationship with Jesus your family and the friends you have around you.
I pray that we would be a group of people that help each other accomplish God’s way and plan for our lives.
Written by Ryan Leak
Edited for Context by Pastor Bill Cropper